Let’s face it: talking about what turns you on can be harder than doing the thing itself. For some of us, being upfront is easy — “This is me, take it or leave it.” For others, it’s terrifying to admit to a partner that you’ve got a thing for feet, or rope, or sharing, or whatever it may be.

So how do you do it? Do you:

• Drop hints and see how they react?

• Test the waters with a cheeky joke or casual “what if” comment?

• Go in blunt and say, “Here’s what I’m into, yes or no”?

And more importantly — what’s actually worked for you? Did a partner surprise you and jump right in? Or did someone totally freak out and make you feel like you’d said too much?

👉 Share your tips, awkward stories, or even just your fears about opening up. The more we talk about it, the easier it gets for everyone.